Feeling “Not Good Enough”
We are a culture that goes after image. Every television commercial we see reminds us we are not good enough, our computer isn’t fast enough, our phone isn’t new enough – that we’re lacking something. When we are bombarded with messages constantly telling us we are not okay, it’s hard not to absorb it. We accept that image of what the ideal should be and feel we are missing out.
There are times when we all feel inadequate about something in our lives. But for many, the feeling goes much deeper. It gets woven into our personal fabric. Worthlessness defines who we are and how we think others in the world see us. Without help we become trapped in a painful cycle of doubt and self-judgment that blocks us from who God created us to be.
Feeling of not being good enough may seem very real to you, however, the feeling did not originate in your rational or logical mind. Therefore, it usually doesn’t make any rational or logical sense. “Not feeling good enough” is usually anchored on the level of the subconscious mind as a core limiting belief. These beliefs generally come from experiences we had when we were young. What holds us back is not who we are but who we think we are. Since core beliefs are not hardwired they can be changed. There is hope.
If you could get people to speak honestly, the I’m-not-good-enough story is almost universal. The ‘Not Good Enough’ syndrome was true in Biblical times. The angel of the Lord came to two people in scripture about their calling and they argued with him that they were not good enough!
Gideon. In Judges 6:11-16 the angel of the Lord appeared to Gideon, he (God) said, “The Lord is with you, mighty warrior.”
“Pardon me, my lord,” Gideon replied, “but if the Lord is with us, why has all this happened to us? Where are all his wonders that our ancestors told us about when they said, ‘Did not the Lord bring us up out of Egypt?’ But now the Lord has abandoned us and given us into the hand of Midian.”
The Lord turned to him and said, “Go in the strength you have and save Israel out of Midian’s hand. Am I not sending you?”
“Pardon me, my lord,” Gideon replied, “but how can I save Israel? My clan is the weakest in Manasseh, and I am the least in my family.”
The Lord answered, “I will be with you, and you will strike down all the Midianites, leaving none alive.”
Moses. In Exodus 3 an angel of the Lord appeared to him. The Lord said, “I have seen the misery of my people in Egypt. I have come down to rescue them. I want to use you. Moses appealed to God 3 times!
But Moses said to the Lord, “Who am I that I should go to Pharaoh and bring the Israelites out of Egypt?” And God said, “I will be with you.
Moses said to the Lord, “Pardon your servant, Lord. I have never been eloquent, neither in the past nor since you have spoken to your servant. I am slow of speech and tongue.”
The Lord said to him, “Who gave human beings their mouths?
Who makes them deaf or mute? Who gives them sight or makes them blind? Is it not I, the Lord? Now go; I will help you speak and will teach you what to say.”
But Moses said, “Pardon your servant, Lord. Please send someone else.”
What God Wants
Psalm 23:1 says in the KJV and NASB “The Lord is my Shepherd; I shall not want.” In Strong’s Exhaustive Concordance the meaning of the word “want” here means fail, want, decrease, (cause to) fail, (have) lack, make lower. If we combine it with the word “not” that precedes it, it says that when we look to Him as our Shepherd, we will not fail, want, lessen, decrease, have lack, be made lower.
May the Lord open your eyes to see that you are good enough. May He reveal the strategies and lies of the enemy that cause you to believe that you are not enough.
Part 2 coming soon . . . How We Decided We Were Not Good Enough